fianz sent me this article last night and i just finished reading it; Ladies: I'm Not Your Gay Boyfriend is on the one hand a really great article from an interesting point of view--who knew gay men could hate the idea of fag hags as much as most girls roll their eyes at them in passing? i'm not claiming to not have taken a gay friend to my junior prom, i'm not pretending i don't spend plenty of time gushing over mutual love for the jonas brothers with one of my two long distance gay bffs (and occasionally fighting over boys; what can i say? we've always had the same taste in men, and have been known to place bets on other people's sexuality. oops!), or, when the other long distance gay bff is visiting, a fair amount of time shopping with him.

but fag hag? please don't call me that. i've known many a hag in my day--they're always tragic girls who are a little overweight and dying for male attention. i'm sorry, but it's true. i can spot a hag from a mile away--unlucky in love, awkward, loud, "into theatre" (although typically just someone who saw RENT in the movie threatres in 2005 and thinks that means something), who loves nothing more than loudly, awkwardly and, let's face it, annoyingly announcing which gay boys are cute and which aren't at pride.

remember at the beginning of this rant, when i said the article was, on one hand, a great article from an interesting point of view? well, here's the other hand: i'm sure it wasn't set up to read this way, but the article felt like a bit of an attack towards any girl who has a gay friend. john and tyler (respectively) will always be called "my friend john" or simply "tyler" long before i'll point out their sexuality as a defining characteristic (when is this going to turn around? will i become somebody's "straight friend sarah?" weird.). i grew up with tyler and knew he was gay before he did, but it didn't have anything to do with why we started hanging out. and john moved in with one of my best friends in college--i didn't have to search him out to become friends with him.

the only gay club i've ever been to was a lesbian club--because i was the only straight girl hanging out on that particular night and that was where my friends wanted to go. i go to pride to support the publication my mother runs and to see my friends. i've never been to the parade. i am not a gay man in a straight woman's body. and please, please don't call me a fag hag. fag hags are embarrassing and give all us other girls who have gay friends a bad name.

anyway. end rant. read the article here.